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When I had a chill, stable life, I fantasized about living a wild one. Now that I have a wild life, I fantasize about having a chill, stable one.

At this point, I don’t even know.

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[–] antlion@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 9 hours ago

Wanna get wild? Try sunbathing during the morning or evening hours with no sunscreen. It feels good, and it’s good for you too. There’s almost no UV light at those times. Age will catch you with or without sunblock.

The trick is: don’t fantasize. Just be who you are right now and do what you enjoy. Ten years ago I was a long distance hiker. Twenty years ago I was drinking lots of beer. But neither of those would describe who I am now. And when I was living those other lives I didn’t yearn to be me now or me from the past. And now that I am me now I’m content with it, because it’s all I know how to be. I’m sure I’ll be different in 10 or 20 years. But I don’t sweat it even for a moment.

If you feel an itch, scratch it. Once the itch is scratched, stop, or it may lead to worse outcomes than an itch. It more itches keep popping up, maybe scratching isn’t the right strategy.