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First off, you are not pathetic, the world is depressing. And just having the intent to do this is a great start. Be kind to yourself, no one else can do that for you.
The first thing to do is forget all of those grand ideas about having a giant garden with all sorts of produce. Even if that is your end goal, don't think about that! It will only demotivate you, because it seems so far away from where you are now.
The second thing to do is go to your local library and get some books about gardening. The simpler the better, is they have gardening books for kids then start with those.
Read those books. Take some easy examples, like herbs, lettuce, or garlic. Start small, and don't overdo yourself. Try to enjoy what you are doing, and stay with the present task. Don't push yourself immediately to do more.
Let that enjoyment be your guide. If you can focus on feeling good about what you are doing, then the rest will come without effort.
In a world that feels depressing, the accomplishment of seeing you grew a onion or a straggly but pretty flower is quite fulfilling. you are right, presence and enjoyment are a therapy.