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How about a clarification to what Rule 1 actually means. If we are going to abide by the downvote system, and if we are to be cival, supportive, and not be insulting, and if we are all indeed adults, then rule 1should kick in somewhere I would assume.
Then exit the thread, and downvote if you must, but do it like a civil adult. What good does it do to denigrate and outright trounce another user if you just so happen to not agree with their product or how they do something? Hive mind leads to gatekeeping, and gatekeeping leads to reddit.
If it's AI, it's 2026 and AI isn't going away. It is a safe assumption that at some point in the production chain, AI was used in some form or fashion. But it doesn't give me clearance to rail on the OP and be downright insulting. Just exit the thread and hit the button. No need for the hatred and anger. Let the mod be the mod if need be. How much more civil and adult can that get? There have been a few outright adverts for paid for services. But again, those should fall under the downvote system and not the bullying system.
I think sometimes we forget that others do not natively speak the English language and use AI to help them communicate coherently much like Americans think that there is only America. Gosh I know I would would if I were addressing say a Korean forum.
If you want to go that route then say so in the sidebar. Something to the effect of new users must participate in threads before unveiling their project. I've been to many forum that had that encoded into the forum itself where you had to participate in x number of posts before you could start your own post.
It's not really that hard to be nice.
Thats not a single item list but a combo, as you know I've only recently taken over here, and as I've repeatedly said all rules are subject to change based on community input. Its only been about 2 weeks now (and a particularly busy week for me this past one) so I haven't posted another yet as I couldn't give it appropriate attention last week.
So let's clarify the rules then, I'm all for it.
First, sorry to make your job harder. Second, my biggest issue is civility, supporting, and helping. Yes, I can, like everyone else, go low. I don't like to, I'd much rather be cordial and helpful. I am inclusive, not exclusive, I'm all about agreeing to disagree and call it a day. No need to curb stomp anyone.
I don't think getting the rules cleaned up makes things harder - if anything I think it makes things easier.