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I was in this friend group (many many years ago) were one girl who always amazed me with her conclusions sometimes joined up. She was very kind so you can not dislike her but she didn't understand very simple concepts and were often lost in conversations that were a bit deeper than small talk. Everyone who met her for the first time always had at least one silent movement where they were thinking "why did she ask/say that?" and were unsure how to proceed (to not hurt her).
At my old workplace did I work with one woman that I think is "dumb" but I am very unsure in what way. I always had this weird feeling when talking to her, it felt like she didn't really get it but she didn't say much that would indicate it. Even tho she is older than I did it feel like talking to a child. It was a very weird experience. I didn't really talk much with her so I heard most things second hand but she could come to some weird conclusions about how to do her job. For example I often came earlier so I could leave earlier, so she did the same except I was actually working she did not, she were just sitting there for 1 hour doing nothing and assumed that was ok, as if we got payed to be there not actually work. When her boss told her off did she get stressful like a child and you saw she felt ashamed. She did this for many things and how she reacted made it seem like a child. I am unsure if she just tested us or if she actually thought it would be ok.
Otherwise do I not really meet "dumb" ppl. It is more about not having the knowledge or experience to know how to proceed or understand something. And some ppl are often in flight or fight mode when stressful problems arrive, so they do not think and come up with a solution that may be called "dumb".