Yeah this whole things needs to be shifted toward the unanticipated because IME, the things i worry about have zero to do with the bad things I experience.

You cant really prepare for the actual things that matter. Might as well not worry. Life is chaotic.

Optimism sounds hard when life gets difficult, but really its just recognizing that in the grand scheme of things, nothing matters but what you experience, so everything thats good is really good. The bad stuff still sucks, but we’ve always had bad, and we’ve always had good, and its all just what its going to be, in our deterministic universe. And thats OK. If you want to see the good, you can, even if it takes some effort, and thats great.

I used to think i was a pessimist, but that was wrong, because i always expect the best of any situation. These days they call that hope or copium, but its optimism. I never actually expect things to suck, i hope for the best and let myself be disappointed by people, because to me, thats emotionally easier than expecting the worst all the time. People aren't bad, they have bad motivations as a result of our broken antisocial systems. And it helps to remember that we survived thousands of years without the present level of conflict, because the vast majority of us, historically and presently, don't want this shit.