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Hear Me Out: This capitalist/traditional attitude towards dating radicalized men into the manosphere. For the last three years this anti-"modern women"/anti-feminism movement has been rising across the internet; and about 75% of their resentment is just about distaste toward dating apps and paying to take a girl out for dinner.
For years I was laughing at ( and then after they helped Trump's re-election, ripping my hair out over ) their complete refusal/inability to see any other alternatives to connect with people besides the most shallow idea of a date. Perhaps these folks just completely unimaginative, or have no personality to offer, and nothing to provide besides the traditional chivalry of this generic "provider" fallback that is unfeasible for most in this economy.
I wish I could just sit down with one of these men, and just ask them "Why not find women elsewhere?". Delete the dating apps and go find a hobby, join a volunteer organization. If you're such a "traditional conservative masculine man", go to a Catholic church or alt-right fascist rally. It's a whole lot cheaper than flying abroad to sugar-daddy at a favorable exchange rate. (Passport bros)
Though... the article does say: "More than half of Gen Z adults reported spending $0 a month on dating in a 2025 Bank of America Better Money Habits survey." and mentions folks rejecting dating apps because they prefer real interactions...so maybe folks are waking up.
This is the same vibe as "go hand out your resume in person". I'm old enough to remember when most people didn't have dial up. Things have changed.
He gave a couple good ideas, join a service group, take Salsa lessons, go to local events. There's a tree planting event in my community this week. You won't meet people if you go once, but if you keep going people will recognize you. This is called "making friends" and sometimes that leads to romance. Things in your community still happen like the olden days.
Sounds like you have some experience here. Would you like to share more about it? How long have you been doing this? How many dates has this resulted in? How many relationships?
Well, I'm married so it worked at some point. I'm involved with my community and the community is your dating pool. The other guy is right in a sense, it's mainly coupled people you meet at events but the more people you meet the more people meet you. You have to make friends before you make lovers. My wife and I have absolutely tried setting up people we've met with people we know. My personal opinion is that people who "never meet anyone" are probably assholes and people steer clear of them.
Okay well you didn't answer any of my questions.
How long ago was that?