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I think we need societal change and I don't think blanket prescribing women what to do or not do like this is necessarily the way to go about it. It's more structural but also, women get told what to do all the time and this is how the patriarchal systems keep being perpetuated.

Also while it is true that by far the most violence and sexual violence occur within the direct social circles of victims (such as family or work), there is also an element of harassment and abuse that is normalized outside those circles. This is not necessarily immediately violent but it reinforces the same patriarchal structures. Things like making lewd comments, inappropriate touching, threatening violence are still experienced far too often to dismiss them. And as I said, this does not always turn to violence but it very well could and does far too often. This instills a safety culture in women who need to learn to adapt and to endure this harassment and the real danger it brings.

So yeah. Women sending their husbands so they don't get killed. They have a point there, I'm sorry but they do and pretending they don't and 'they should just go outside more' is reductive and dismissive of the realities women unfortunately face every day.