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No therapist can "fix" you, it takes active participation in sessions for it to actually do something. That means being honest even when that means admitting you dont know what to say or that you don't want to answer, because then you can have a discussion around why that is hard for you.
Participating in therapy means poking and prodding where there is internal resistance, because that's where you can find some answers for the things that are hurting you.
You need to try trusting the therapist, and a lot of good can come even from talking honestly about the issues you have with the session - as long as you're doing your best to be open about it. You can say for example that the tips they give you makes it feel like they dont understand you or want to listen to you when they just give generic advice, and that you're not responding well to unsolicited advice in general.
This therapist may not be a great match though, especially if they make you feel unsafe about your olace in your country (although it seems worth exploring at some future point)... and there is no problem to try a different one! Perhaps you can find one that is more used to working with people in your specific circumstances, or your current one can recommend you someone else?
But no therapist in the world is going to be good for you unless you actually say what's on your mind, even when it seems inane or pointless or embarrassing or empty.
At least that's what years of therapy for very little effect taught me, compared to six months with a determined mind, a deadline, and a skillful specialised therapist.