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[โ€“] Elextra@literature.cafe 2 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Read this and most of your other posts after this. If you're in San Francisco (i dont know but what youre describing sounds very much like it), I can only share my experience in the bay area, your posts just sound very pessimistic.

Yeah, some of my friends have run into people like that but humans tend to be very dynamic in that everyone is different. If you find a girl who expects that level of finances, unlikely to be a great partner anyways. There are people everywhere. You even said yourself your friends are single and I would imagine they wouldn't be your friends unless they had some qualities you like about them too. People are out there! Wishing you the best on your journey

[โ€“] AskewLord@piefed.social 1 points 7 hours ago

people who i don't want to date are out there, yes. people who I do want to date, don't exist in this city anymore.

they did 10 years ago.