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I've seen some discussion around magister with the short form mage and the abbreviation mg. Allegedly both ms and mr come from the Latin root that magister comes from, so lexically it makes sense.
I suppose just avoiding gender and professionalism altogether is better though. Instead of "Hello sir," a polite "Good afternoon" could suffice. Instead of "Excuse me miss" just "Excuse me."
Or call everyone comrade.
Edit: oh yeah, twin. There's been a lot of people calling others twin.
No one is going to start a professional email "Dear mage" and be taken seriously, no matter how linked the etymology.
"To whom it may concern..."
Well, unless you're writing to an actual mage. As in a magician, wizard, sorcerer, witch, warlock or mystic.
That's accurate, but the path is a bit messy:
That said using "magister" sounds like a bad idea. At the same time pedantic, and not solving the issue (it's a gendered word referring to a human being, so not quite ideal for the non-binary folks there). I'm not sure on how I would solve this in English, I'd probably go for something like "esteemed" plus a relevant noun ("client"? full name? last name?); only slightly posh but that's fine.
Only thing I can think of is 'Honorable' as what judges get as a formal title... its gender neutral, but waaaaaay too formal.
'Esteemed' is... yeah, similar, but also imo is so formal and rarely used seriously that it essentially comes across as camp, sarcastic.
I would genuinely just suggest English borrow a gender neutral term from another language.
That would be... on brand for English.
Possibly we could bastardize a Japanese honorific / suffix?
-san
-sama
-tono
-ue
???
Just fuck it up and put it in front of a name?
... There are probably too many weaboos this would significantly anger...
-tono in particular I find very funny, as it essentially literally is "m'they'dy" from another comment, in Japanese.
Problem with honorifics is that you'd need to borrow the whole system, not just one or two suffixes. Otherwise it wouldn't make sense, as those suffixes are only meaningful in contrast with each other.
You could theoretically borrow "San" and use it in the same position as Mr./Ms. But following this logic might as well go just with "M.", as another comment mentioned — at least when writing it's enough, and when speaking in person you can simply ask.
(Some might even say "use my name, no honorific". I've seen plenty people in Portuguese doing it, but for religious reasons.)
I totally follow what you mean, but part of me wants to reiterate bastardize.
The English language has certainly taken words from other languages and just... bent them totally beyond their original meaning/usage, to the point of breaking.
But another part of me simultaneously cringes at just, doing that intentionally.
sigh
I get what you mean by "bastardisation". In this case it would be like in my 2nd paragraph: borrow "san" and shoehorn it into the same honorific system English "mister" and "miss" already use, disregarding the one used by Japanese.
Ah, daijobu. A bit of weebness is omoshiroi.