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That's advice that will get you a burnout. Hope, especially when sought for with the purpose of maintaining high levels of stress, will break you when it becomes implausible.
It is a promise that can become false, and once your body knows you're willing to lie to trick it into greater productivity, it'll just stop listening to you.
It's dangerous to trust famous people with life advice because of survivorship bias. Even if they are honest about their life stories, they are not representative of everybody that tries a thing.
Dealing with high stress means caring for yourself in the moment, building structures that make it easier for you to care for yourself, and escaping the situation if you can.
It's debriefing, processing traumas as they happen, touching grass, hugging, and understanding what makes life worth living even now.
It's solidarity networks, resource pooling, leaning on friends and comrades and letting them lean on you, and forming collectives.
It's unionizing, demonstration, occupation, and revolution.
I think hope is a great thing, but I also think that for many people, it's important to recognize the possibility that good things could happen. Sometimes it's enough to recognize that the odds are low, but they're definitely not zero.
Hope is great as long as you don't try to summon it. "When a measure becomes a target, it ceases to be a good measure". Hope comes naturally when you're trying to do things that you can actually believe have a chance of doing something that matters to you. Its absence is a warning, a signal to change your behavior to something that does work.