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The way I do it is I ask "Are you from [city we are currently in]?" The immigrants and visitors say no and I get to ask where they're from. The locals say yes and don't get offended. There's no presumption, no implication.
I need to use this because I'm always awkward trying to figure out ways to get people to open up. I work with a couple of Asian guys at work, and one of the guys is VERY open about his background. I could write an essay on his life from age 13 to 60. The other guy is a complete mystery. I've worked closely with him for 3 years and I still have no idea about his background. A few years ago he told me he was taking two weeks off "to go back home" and I thought that this was my chance to find out more, I asked "where's home?". And he replied "L.A.".