I was describing a person who I knew, as an example of why I was not going to respect the self-description of people who have a poor relationship with reality.

I also said they were stupid. Which there were. Is that also a slur?

[–] Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 1 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago) (1 children)

The word n*rcissist is a shortened form of a disability, turned into a personal label. It's like r*tard or sp*rg.

Regardless of authorial intent, the use of that derogatory label is inseparable from ableism because using the slur emboldens and covers for ableists. At best it's a dogwhistle.

I assumed you meant it in relation to the disability because you brought up the idea of an identity being caused by a disability.

[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Except that narcissism isn't a disability

[–] Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 1 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disorder

associated with significant functional impairment and psychosocial disability.[1]

[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

And yet narcissists make up a large proportion of the most "wealthy and successful" segments of modern society ... ergo, not a disability.

[–] Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 1 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

That's an ableist and unproven conspiracy theory based on your personal biases.

[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

I will not feed your ego by suggesting that narcissists have a hard time in life because of that part of them

[–] Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 2 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Here's a really interesting paper I think you should read. It's clinicians' perceptions of the stigma faced by pwNPD. It's not our own opinions, it's what psychologists and psychiatrists who don't have NPD think we face on a daily basis. The opinions of experts on the frontline.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/40107324/

You can read the abstract for yourself. But in case you don't have full text access, I'm gonna skip ahead to the conclusion for your benefit:

Overall, this research suggests that NPD is highly stigmatized and that NPD stigma negatively impacts the diagnosis and treatment of NPD. We hope these findings provide a foundation for future research on the structure, manifestation, impact, and amelioration of NPD stigma.

[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

Uhuh, and are you receiving treatment?

[–] Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 1 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

No. I went to a psychiatrist to request an evaluation for diagnosis. He refused and said I didn't seem like I have NPD, and then offered Me "something to take the edge off". He explained that psychiatrists don't do that kind of thing, they just give people drugs.

I don't think he was a very good psychiatrist. He pretty much eroded all My trust in the medical establishment to deal with My narcissistic symptoms in 10 minutes flat. So I did it Myself.

[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 8 hours ago

Given how wildly you interpreted She-Ra, I'm going to go out on a limb and consider that your experience did not match reality