Off My Chest
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Ive got similar deadline problems. Dont pretend like trying harder yourself will solve this. Also dont think humbly admitting fault is useful either.
For myself i invited more oversight or handshakes with my manager before risk is too high. Something like, "are you on schedule?" Isnt enough for me, ive gotta have that 15 minute screen share where i show how on schedule i am materially. Otherwise, ill lie to myself that all is well, when its not. Trying to demonstrate independent performance isnt worth fucking it up again.
Your manager will appreciate knowing how to get better results. Saying you need help with this sort of task management is admitting weakness, but if its accomodated by safe guards then its all good. Ive fooled myself too many times trying to fix similar behavior, and these are the only successful ways ive found.
Put those check-ins on the calendar from the get-go at useful periods the moment you got something assigned.