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A safe space for GSRM (Gender, Sexual, and Romantic Minority) folk to discuss their lives, issues, interests, and passions. LGBT is still a popular term used to discuss gender and sexual minorities, but all GSRM are welcome beyond lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people who consent to participate in a safe space

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Experimenting as an adult (piefed.social)

submitted 3 months ago by MaitreMortem681@piefed.social to c/lgbt@lemmy.world

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I never experimented with my sexuality as a teenager - dysphoria, depression, autism, etc. You get the gist. Good news: I'm finally starting to get my ducks in a row at the decrepit old age of 23 /j. Bad news: Oh god now I have to address this shit.

Gonna be honest, I have no ideas where to start. So... how did y'all figure out if you liked men/women/both/neither/whatever? Was it an instinctual thing that you just Noticed one day? Did you have to go on dates and try things out?

I'm a little nervous about coming across as an asshole if I hook up with someone and then realize "Oh! I hate this!" halfway through, y'know?

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[–] LostWanderer@fedia.io 4 points 3 months ago

Personally, I've always known deep down about my pure attraction to men and the masculine. I fooled around with a lot of guys my age, only had crushes on guys throughout school, and only had sex dreams about two dudes (or more) pushing the limits with sexual exploration. For me, it was very much a "fork found in kitchen" situation.

Personally, I would start with more indirect methods, gauging responses/feelings toward those that are considered attractive, media that contain sexual acts being performed in a wide range (straight, gay) various genders getting involved on the actions. If any of those spark something, perhaps trying with actual people would help. To not be an asshole, one way is stating that you are uncertain about your sexual desires and wish to test them out. Most decent human beings will be understanding and those that do not respond positively to that are best avoided.