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Hey, Bud.
I lived almost exactly this. Three kids, no romance, no sex, no joy. Just business partners running a household.
It finally came to a head when I was driving and the song Self Esteem by The Offspring came on, and I just broke down. Even if you're familiar with it, go ahead and give it a listen.
After being together for 15 years, I filed for divorce. The entire process was very emotionally challenging, but it was amicable enough that we didn't need to involve lawyers. We split custody 50/50 a week on and a week off. (Although, I don't think it works as well as we expected. The kids get lost in the shuffle, and next week's problems just become the other parents problems. I'm starting to think the kids don't have as much stability as they need.)
That was in 2018. I'm remarried now, with two stepsons in addition to my original three kids. Things are much better now, and my only regret is waiting so long to do something about it.
Go find love! It's worth much more than all of the reasons you've convinced yourself to stay together. You deserve it!
I wish the best. Stop throwing away your life for someone who doesn't even care about you!
Just listened to the song. First comment is that it caused a divorce 5 years ago. You are apparently not alone xD
Quickly does a little math in his head
Nope that wasn't mine!
Thanks for your insightful comment from the other side. I good to hear you have found love again :) so will I one day :)
I know it's scary as hell, but it's the only way to find out what your future could be.
Best wishes to you!