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yes, this was originally more of a retirement plan that I would eventually quit my job once we had enough saved up and it wouldn't be too much of a financial burden for me to be unemployed (like, we were hoping there would be a point where we felt life would be overall be less stressful and better if I picked up the domestic labor full-time than if I worked a job full-time while still doing the domestic labor - I'm doing the cooking and laundry no matter what, so retirement is mostly a stress-reduction strategy).
But then I was unexpectedly pushed out of my job, so we found ourselves in this situation a bit too early. I'm constantly stressed about finances now and trying to find a path to get us into a financially viable situation (right now we are far from financially sustainable, the housing shortage and having to flee across state lines meant we were stuck in a massively over-priced housing situation).
Hopefully we find a path to cheaper housing and the stress settles down (and we don't have any major health emergencies or other sudden extreme expenses - e.g. we were in a bad car wreck and we had to replace our car, and let's just say the car insurance didn't suitably cover the cost of replacing it, etc. we can only take so many blows).
But yes, theoretically there is a way this could work out that would be like a dream scenario where I am just taking care of the domestic labor I was doing anyway when I was working full-time, and that life is just easier and happier for it.
I wish I were retired, then.
But more than that, I wish the best for you and your family.
haha, three cheers to that - financial independence is the dream.
I tend to be very frugal, but you can only save so much money by being cheap (and a lot of the strategies take up your time rather than your money, and you also only have so much time).
And thank you, that is very kind. I think we'll be OK - just in a stressful period with a lot of uncertainty, but objectively we are very privileged and I don't really feel I have room to complain.
Your life could be better if selfish people weren't making it worse. You should never feel shame for calling that out.