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Is it okay/normal to say mean things to someone's face because they rejected you? (piefed.blahaj.zone)

submitted 5 days ago by atheqtpie@piefed.blahaj.zone to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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This may seem like bait, but I'm asking a genuine question. This happened to my girlfriend where she rejected her former best friend (in a nice way, even saying they could still be friends) and later got insulted, told to kill herself if she was so depressed, and said she never wanted to see her again. Some people say this girl is mean, crazy even, and others say she had the right to say that because she was hurt and my girlfriend should have said yes even though her best friend was a lot less mature and younger than her. They were more like siblings than anything.

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[–] AskewLord@piefed.social 7 points 4 days ago (1 children)

This is why people ghost.

I date and I meet a lot of ladies who can't take rejection without insults and harassment being given in return.

[–] atheqtpie@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Yeah... it really is a shame. Like imagine being best friends with someone for 3 years only to turn on them because they didn't like you back? Some people you can never be JUST FRIENDS with.

[–] AskewLord@piefed.social 3 points 4 days ago (2 children)

A lot of people only see other people in terms of transactional relationships. Once you stop giving them what they want out of you, they have zero use or interest in you.

[–] atheqtpie@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 4 days ago

Now that I think about it, I think my girlfriend's friend was just using her to vent and eventually date and once she didn't get what she wanted, dropped her. I mean, she was like 13 when this happened and now they're 15 and my girlfriend is 17 (I'm 18), but still, she would say things to get negative reactions out of my girlfriend and threaten her and was quite the self-centered bitch

[–] atheqtpie@piefed.blahaj.zone 1 points 4 days ago

Yeahhhh