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Original wording (Cantonese): "你一食葯就会食到老嘅啦“ (Once you start, you will need to continue till you get old (aka: till your death))

Oh okay mom... "唔食藥而家死咗就唔使到老囉" (If I don't get medicated, I die now and no need to get old) (didn't actually say it, but really want to)

This culture is gonna kill me 😭

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[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 1 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Toxic? Maybe...

But the thing about Asian parents, especially Chinese parents, is that even the most lovely parents are ignorant and controlling af... like the "overton window" of parenting is so fucked...

The whole worldview is different.

Love and unhealthy dynamics can simultaneously exist... its not mutually exclusive

By western standards... we'd have to cut out all of our parents out of our lives

idk... attachment is just irrational, emotions are irrational...

I honestly hate Chinese culture more than I hate parents...

I don't blame them for being passed down such a fucked up culture...