Demisexuality

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A community for those who identify as being demisexual!

This community was made out of a desire to bring together those on the fediverse who identify as demisexual, and build opportunities in connecting with others who are so that they feel validated and heard.

For those unaware, demisexuality is a sexuality on the Asexual spectrum, where one's sexual attraction to someone is established only after an emotional bond is formed.

Feel free to post memes, questions, resources, or anything relating to demisexuality here in this community!

All are welcome to participate so long as they follow the rules.

Rules:

  1. PieFed.ca instance rules are to be followed at all times. Currently these rules are the same as those on Lemmy.ca.

  2. All posts in the community must be in relation to demisexuality. Demiromantics are welcome, though this community is purely focused on demisexuality.

  3. While likely already covered by rule 1, no aphobia. Any posts or comments shaming someones sexual or romantic attraction, or lack of, will be removed with the offenders banned.

  4. While not required, it is generally good practice to provide Alt-text for image posts for those with visibility impairments.

  5. This is currently an English-only community. This is simply for ease of moderation. As this community is hosted on a Canadian instance, posts in French are planned to be allowed in the future.

  6. Please use the NSFW tag for more "adult" posts. Adult posts that are not tagged as NSFW will be removed. Posts with pornographic content are not allowed and will be removed regardless of tagging.

This list of rules is non-exhaustive, and will be built upon with time.

Resources:

More resources will be added here as time goes on. There are communities on Reddit about demisexuality that are relatively easy to find, though they will not be directly linked here to help foster and build a federated alternative to the platform.

Community icon is licensed CC BY-SA 4.0 courtesy of Bruce the Deus of Wikimedia.

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Weekly Demi Discourse (October 27th, 2025) - What's something seen as normal in dating culture that you simply don't get? (piefed.ca)
submitted 3 weeks ago by Binzy_Boi@piefed.ca to c/demisexual@piefed.ca
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Sorry for not posting in the community a little bit, do plan on keeping the community active, just been busy as I've been planning on a big move.

Today's weekly question asks what you don't get about accepted norms in dating culture. What do you find odd about it all, and why?

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Fingers crossed! (Welcome to the Demisexual community on PieFed.ca!) (piefed.ca)
submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by Binzy_Boi@piefed.ca to c/demisexual@piefed.ca
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Hey all,

Welcome to the Demisexuality community here on PieFed.ca! While I've made a few communities on this instance already, this one is one I especially plan on giving attention to as it's especially personal to me.

Not to overshare, but when it comes to being demisexual I've been feeling a bit isolated, especially as of late. As much as I try to pay no mind to it, the unfortunate reality is that I feel misunderstood by everyone, you're too queer to relate to straight friends, Your sexual attraction sets you apart from those who are completely asexual, and in my own case being heteroromantic, as much as I appreciate my queer friends, it sometimes feels I'm too "straight" to relate with them.

I've made a community for demisexuality elsewhere before, can't recall the instance off hand since I've instance-hopped a bit, but it didn't really get off the ground as I admittedly didn't put a whole lot of effort into the community. This time around, however, I want to put in a lot more effort into the community as there doesn't seem to be a whole lot of spaces specific to demisexuals, and I can't help shake the thought that there's probably other people that share the same thoughts I do where they need a space to better connect with others in the same boat as they are.

I'll try my best to post here daily, and I look forward to meeting you all!

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Weekly Demi Discourse (October 13th, 2025) - What made you realise that you're demisexual? (piefed.ca)
submitted 1 month ago by Binzy_Boi@piefed.ca to c/demisexual@piefed.ca
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Hi all!

This is likely a bit late for a number of people, though in the future, I will be using the scheduled post feature in order to have the question posted at a more reasonable time for most people on Mondays.

This will be a weekly series where a question is posted asking community members about their experiences being demisexual, or topics regarding demisexuality as a whole. The name is based off an old community name idea I had that I felt would be a good fit reusing for this weekly series.

This weeks question is simple, but also complex with how broad it is. What made you realise you're demisexual? What set things apart for you where you felt you didn't quite understand the norm for how people view sexuality, but also didn't sit into the camp of being fully asexual? How did you come to learn that your attraction was based on emotional connection?

Looking forward to hearing people's responses!

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Don't mind the typo (media.piefed.ca)
submitted 1 month ago by Binzy_Boi@piefed.ca to c/demisexual@piefed.ca
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Saying the quiet part out loud (media.piefed.ca)
submitted 1 month ago by Binzy_Boi@piefed.ca to c/demisexual@piefed.ca
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Art is by Candiewrapper, please check them out at their website here !

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Spent too much time in GIMP to make this (media.piefed.ca)
submitted 1 month ago by Binzy_Boi@piefed.ca to c/demisexual@piefed.ca
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