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My fiancé David is friends with a guy Sean. Sean became very distant and mean to him. He never cared about what David had to say nor felt empathy for him at all. He would always be like “but what about me?? I’m miserable”.

He constantly blew up at David and David acted like he could fix Sean and didn’t want to leave because he promised to always be there for him.

David is really kind and sometimes it feels like it’s killing me since I would probably not stay. I love David so much and I worry for him, but I can’t control him not do I wanna.

He said he doesn’t wanna always talk to David and that he’s tired of him. How can I help?

Sean is also REALLY nice to me. Did the friendship already crash and burn or is there hope or what??

I'm in constant fear of being deported.

I've helped my American wife get her medical degree, worked from home, looked after kids and house, and then when she graduated she got a job in the States

as soon as we moved she refused to apply for my greencard and kicked me out.

I'm 100% illegal and undocumented, and if I leave I'll never see my children again. I'm not allowed to work, I'm being my family for money to survive, no access to anything.

being alone with my thoughts is a nightmare. because I'm constantly afraid. she's taking advantage of this by constantly violation the divorce agreement she signed she doesn't let me call the kids when i should. she doesn't tell me of their medical appointments which I have to pay.

still better than living with her, but fuck.

cross-posted from: https://thelemmy.club/post/29036145

My fiancé David seems to have an “I can fix him” mindset with his friend Sean. David is always making excuses of Sean’s toxic behavior towards him and stuff.

Sean clearly does not like him. Sean is always ranting and blowing up at David. He never wants to talk to David or hang out with him. He makes David really sad but David wants to keep his promise to always be Sean’s friend and thinks he can fix Sean or something.

I appreciate that David is trying not to talk to Sean anymore. I’ve just been worried about him that his friendship with him is one-sided and not the best, but I can’t control him and I don’t want to at all.

I just don’t know what to do. Kind suggestions, please?

Sean left a rant saying: (shortened, paraphrased) HOW DARE YOU JOIN THE MILITARY WITHOUT MY PERMISSION

I’M IN SO MUCH PAIN. I HAVE NO FRIENDS AND NO ONE TO TALK TO AND YOU HAVE FRIENDS AND A FIANCÉE AND YOU DONT LIKE ME OR EVER PAY ATTENTION TO ME AT ALL

I’VE TRIED SO HARD JUST TO BE YOUR FRIEND BUT YOU DON’T APPRECIATE ME ENOUGH. YOU’RE SO UNGRATEFUL OMG YOU SUCK.

YOU ALWAYS SAY YOUR LIFE SUCKS, YOU NEVER THINK ABOUT MINE?? IM MISERABLE!!!

You are loved here 💓

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