I always think of Dunbar’s Number when talking to people about large friend groups on social media.
It’s worth using as a tool to understand what 800 friends might actually mean in reality.
this post was submitted on 20 Nov 2025
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You need to cut the cord and wise up, you don't have 800 friends.
Can I just take this opportunity to vent, I'm so annoyed. My grandsons school closed due to the asbestos kinetic sand thing, you know how they informed everyone, and blindly expected every one to see it, exactly as it was released. I violently hate the fact schools and official places use Facebook for community noticeboards and communication tools. I appreciate your efforts.
Eta, my grandson is in my care, he's asd lvl 3 and of course I turned up to take him to school, why couldn't they just email or text. They can text you if you're late dropping off etc.
Thats frustrating.
Your restrictions on excluding the fediverse are nonsensical.
I'm running Firefox on Windows and lemmy is a fucking mess, no way I would recommend this place. Edge is a little better.
There are comms where I simply cannot post. Had assumed I was blocked but another user looked and I am not. Make a post, hit submit, page refreshes, nada. Both browsers do this, have to change accounts for my post to work.
Pics that are directly uploaded are "frozen", can't expand them, if it's too small, oh well, can't see it.
Weird graphic artifacts on Firefox, can't tell where my cursor is. This only happens on lemmy.
And on and on and on.
I only do that because it's very hard to understand. People want easy.
I think the only hard part is choosing what server to setup your account on. Just link to the one you're on and they don't really need to know the complicated part exists
I would assume everyone would just use friendicia.world and then we are kind of back in the same centralized boat right?
Wait... I just noticed the server you're on. Since it's not lemmy.world, is this a shitpost?
No. Im just clueless lol
I didn't actually bother reading up on the instance. I've got some good mates out near Quebec. Its a nice area
Wish I lived there! Im north but not that far
No, even then people have the choice to migrate to a different host if they don't like the direction .world is going. There is no lock-in
Wouldn't you need to make a new account and start over ?
Ill have to try for myself !
That makes no sense.
You can create a Lemmy or Mastodon account in moments with nothing more than a web browser.
Is that the entire fediverse, no.
Is Facebook one thing, also no.
Even with lemmy, you still have to decide on an instance and then make totally new accounts if you ever want to move an instance, which is very annoying.
I'd disagree, FB is just one thing. You log in, it's all there. I'm not defending it, that's just how it is.
I don't know anything about Mastodon - I actually thought that was a xitter replacement?
A Lemmy server is like Facebook if there were a hundred other Facebooks people could be on and connect to. There's no reason for you all not to join the same server. People who care enough can move easily.
The only thing I'd say is bad is if you pick the wrong server and it shuts down because then everyone is forced to find a new server.
Let's say you have 800 friends. What service do you recommend to try to convince FB users to move ? This platform would have to have all the same functions, videos, pictures, events, pages, etc.
Mate, I don't believe in hell, but you just described it to a 'T'. Good luck in your search!
This platform would have to have all the same functions
This expectation comes from inertia, not need. No system, thing, or product can ever succeed at checking everyone's little boxes from another product in a satisfactory way.
Also both you and your friends are older, different people now. The old magic will not come back. Figure out what you actually actually need and find something new that will be good at that.
Facebook was new and confusing once. If you can face that again, you'll find beautiful things.
I agree. Im about the only person i know that digs into new and confusing things technologically, unfortunately. The rest are all just tired and want daddy zucc to do it for them.
My recommendation is to just stop using it and everyone else be damned.
You have 800 friends, do you actually talk to all 800 of them regularly? Are they actually friends or just people you kinda know who interact with you on Facebook?
I'd say text your actual friends or talk to them on whatever chat app you prefer, and ignore everyone else.
Myspace.com.
wait who owns this now? I had no idea the site was even up, haven't looked in many years
In June 2011, Specific Media Group and Justin Timberlake jointly purchased the company for approximately $35 million.[16] On February 11, 2016, it was announced that Myspace and its parent company had been purchased by Time Inc. for $87 million.[17][18] On January 31, 2018, Time Inc. was in turn purchased by Meredith Corporation,[19] and later that year, on November 4, 2019, Meredith spun off Myspace and its original holding company (Viant Technology Holding Inc.) and sold it to Viant Technology LLC.[20]
So do people actually use it or is it just a ruse now
Yes, but not a lot. I’m guessing around 5 million? (I say guessing because I can’t remember where I read it). They don’t seem to have a mobile app anymore (they used to).
MySpace and Friendi.ca seem to be your best options.
Edit: With a group of 800, you might want to consider hosting your own instance to alleviate the confusion of which/where to go (Friendica). You don’t need to do it yourself, @communick.news “provides managed hosting” and save yourself a headache.
My personal opinion: FB is bad not just because of who owns it or how it's operated. The very concept is harmful. I grew up in the 90s before the web existed. All the stupid stuff I did and said stays where it belongs, haunting my memories when I lie a wake at 3 AM. Now along comes social media. You over share your life, and it's all associated with your real name and real face and real phone number. It's all out there, forever, for everyone to see. No thanks.
I dont post on it except for community events. I haven't made a post in years
I think it's hard to find a platform that both requires all of your personal data and also doesn't reveal or sell your personal data.
friendica is the best alternative but you don't want fediverse so look at this list https://alternativeto.net/software/facebook/
Ah yes i had forgot friendicia, I find it really confusing so that is a no go for normies.
So everything other than Facebook is a no-go? You were given 3 alternatives and categorically rejected them all. It'S cOnFusINg sO iT's A nO-Go. Well... Stay on FB then
Dump your friends , and start again
Sometimes friends are more important than a social network app.
Choose your friends in real life, not on soc. Media
Came here from reddit huh?
Left reddit with the exodus in 2023
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Mastodon app for IOS.
Raccoon for Android.
800 friends