I think this post is the one that will make me finally unsubscribe and leave this commmunity. It's so many brigaders here now and it's not fun or productive anymore. I might return some time in the future, but I fought the good fight and I'm ready to be done.
Open discourse is fine, but you can really only have a community like this work if enough people accept the core premise. I'm not sure Lemmy can support that kind of userbase.
Best of luck, everyone.
I get that totally, I've been thinking about doing the same thing. I don't want to desert the cause though!
Notice the posts about witch stuff are largely ignored...
the cause
... What cause? Where is a cause here? There is no cause.
You mean that we can only have a discussion with you if everyone agrees with you?
Because yeah, that's going to be a very short discussion and people like that are better off gone.
If you don't mean that, then what do you mean? If you call anyone with a differing opinion a brigader then you're literally no different (on that subject) than trump and his cronies who do the exact fucking same all day long
I'm just amazed reading comments down here saying that this indeed is a "good cause"..... WHAT CAUSE?! There is no problem here, except for the one you're trying to create. Its the same with homeless, which now we need to call "unhoused" because reasons? I fucking guarantee you that 10-20 years from now, "unhoused" will suddenly be deemed insulting, and we'll again make up new words for it because again, reasons. Can we just keep the words and actually focus on resolving the problem instead of finding prettier words to describe it?
My language did that better, term is "Alleinerziehender", literally translating to:
"alone nursing (person)".
Also, it incidentally is in the male grammatical form, although that is used as a neutral gender here.
"Single Mom" has become some kind of slur, understanding that correct?
Interesting! I've never heard the male form used except specifically when talking about a male person. I'd guess it's a regional thing again (die/das Nutella anyone?).
But for the single mom/dad I've not heard that as a derogative in daily speech.
For me it makes sense to talk about a situation from the perspective of the people in the situation and not some circumstance.
I've never heard the male form used
Typically you would not use the noun at all, but the adjective "alleinerziehend".
“Single Mom” has become some kind of slur, understanding that correct?
Honestly it entirely depends on the context. Some see single parents as incredible superheros for how much they manage to balance everything and keep it all stable for their kids who are too young to be left alone. But also some use it as a put down, whether as slut-shaming, part of anti-poor rhetoric or there's the infamous "but where are the fathers?!" racial dogwhistle. Basically single parents are a convenient block of people to paint all sorts of different pictures of to push whatever narrative one might be trying to push
Fucking puritans.
We're still paying the price for their insane zealotry and terrible fashion choices.
Really has a ring to it...
And I wish that people would stop trying to find new and inventive ways to find new definitions to screech about, especially when there is nothing wrong with said definitions.
"Single mother" means a mother who is single, without a partner (typically, not always a husband)
There is no judgement in there...
There is nothing offensive in there...
QUICK, LETS BE OUTRAGED ABOUT IT THEN!
Look, there are also children with single fathers, we don't call them "Children of absentee mothers" either because we're all adults and not a group of little children trying to virtue signal themselves to stardom, right?
Right?!