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Lots of people have procreated that really shouldn't have, unfortunately.

When I was a kid, my parents used to leave me at home with my brother and he would be abusive af. He tied me up ones with zipties. One time, I felt so scared of my brother, I had to run away from home. I'm so used to all this, every time I hear my mother's voice, I feel terrified, its like PTSD-inducing.

Then my mother gets [suprisedpikachuface.jpg] when I have depression. What did you expect, bitch, you caused this.

I see a lot of objectionable behavior out in public. A lot of it is from children. But most of it is not. If I'm thinking through my 10 worst flight experiences, or subway experiences, or coffee shop experiences, none of them involve children. Children are mostly a mild annoyance (and I say this as someone who mostly doesn't like other people's kids), but mostly harmless.

So the reaction of singling out the children for immediate correction, through physical force and violence, seems to be selectively targeted, and makes me suspect it's just people who just don't like children. Unless these same people say that a person holding up the line, playing music too loud on the subway, getting too close in your personal space, throwing trash on the ground, catcalling women, using slurs in public, etc., all deserve to be beaten, too.

And for people in the thread who are saying stuff like "oh yeah you shouldn't beat your kids, but you should keep those children out of public places," it also calls to mind the way some people talk about the homeless or the disabled, like they're ruining your good time by simply existing within your vicinity.

We're all just trying to coexist. Being in public, in a place open and accessible to everyone else, is inherently going to involve compromise, where we're not able to exclude others (the deal that comes with them not being able to exclude you). You can't let other people aggravate you enough to, like, post a TikTok about it (which I also consider to be objectionable behavior).

Yeah but then I see grown ass adults doing the same shit. And since they're my age they more than likely got beat.

"Those pesky kids need a beating" is a meme several thousands years old

Yoooo, I have two kids who I have never laid a hand on, and they behave extremely well compared to their peers (not perfect by any means, but I am very happy with them). My father beat the shit out of me when I was a kid, and what did that get him? Me hating him until now. I still help him and take care of him, but to be 100% honest, I don't have love for the man. You don't need to beat a little being who has no defense to make them behave, this is just absurd and stupid.

It's crazy seeing kids being kids. In the 90's abuse was legal and used, daily. I guess the trade off is life expectancy since we didn't dodge bullets on the daily.

Shit take

It's pretty hard being a dad and wanting to not hit my kids (which I do not) because I know damn well when they're throwing shit and having an absolute exorcist level tantrum over some inconsequential shit I just think "yeah my mum would have smacked my ass and I'd not have done that again" for the eighth time each day..

"Calm it down or you'll lose your tablet time" doesn't have the same immediate corrective effect.