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Does Lemmy or PieFed have anything similar to the Reddit R4R communities who want to connect people in a local area for friendship? And are there anything like the dating subreddits? Or even the cheater ones? Or like marriedbutchatting?

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[–] marighost@piefed.social 8 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Not to my knowledge. Lemmy/Piefed/etc might be a wee bit small to justify groups like that, but you can always make your own community!

[–] mtsandersen@piefed.social 1 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

I hadn’t really used Reddit much until fairly recently if anything other than checking some art subreddits or find some answers. I didn’t even know there were porn on there, shows how little I explored it. There’s a bunch of terminology that is just expected users know without any sort of glossary. One of those was R4R, which I had to Google. 

I like the idea behind a community (I assume that is what c/ stands for) which is focused on connecting people in specific local areas, be it to organise D&D tournaments, chess matches or as is my interest, photo meetups, exercise, cycling walking groups. 

But the same applies to dating. I didn’t know those existed on Reddit either until recently, as Reddit seems ill-suited for it. But let’s say a singles event around a pub meetup, movie meetup, exercise meetup or whatever.

From looking superficially, it seems the R4R<Location> subreddits have become for hookups, which is ok if separated from the other things.

So for instance if I was to start a community for say a local calisthenics community for Sydney where I’m from, what might you call it? Is there a code word like R4R<location> that people could search for, or are there no conventions yet?

[–] mtsandersen@piefed.social 2 points 16 hours ago

The fact that the Lemmmy/PieFed community (not sure what the collective term is) is still small is OK, since you have to start somewhere; it’s a catch-22, if there isn’t a community, they won’t come, and hence you don’t build a community. So starting something local so when they come looking they will have somewhere to post their interests is a start.