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Then your employers think it would be a great idea to go around the group and have everyone share what their “personal growth goals” are.
Personally, I’m just trying to keep my head above water here in a world that’s getting shittier and more expensive every year, while wages don’t keep up. I’m so tired, so if I had to pick something, I think my goal would be to grow the time I spend sleeping and on self-care. But I get the feeling the bosses wouldn’t appreciate that answer.
Absolutely. I have to have regular conversations with my manager about career progression because in the surveys they highly encourage people to take, people said they felt stagnant in their careers. Well now we have to pretend to have a productive conversation on career progression while the stagnation remains, but managers have to come up with an excuse why so-and-so didn't get a promotion during performance review time (usually it's "you're so close, but we're looking for more X" where X can change to whatever is convenient to deny a promotion).
On top of that, they now ask us how we use AI in our daily work because they're desperate for "AI wins".
Ooof, I feel that. I'm being held up on a single metric from my next raise by a single supervisor. Every other manager says I'm ready, but this one person won't give me points for "professionalism responding to feedback." Key to this, I held a meeting months ago discussing the limits of my disabilities (autism, which is ironic since the job is educating autistic children) but this one manager was late to work that day and missed it. Everyone who attended understood and have been really supportive.
It was a difficult talk for me. I wrote an essay to read off, talking about the support I need and even included visual illustrations of what it feels like when I get overwhelmed. Although I implement changes immediately, it takes me time to mentally adjust and my tone goes flat when I'm overwhelmed. I suspect the way changes initially throw me off is the reason this particular manager thinks I'm "not professional enough." So it looks like I'm going to need to hold another meeting, with her specifically, and bare my soul all over again. I'm not looking forward to it.
I hate having to completely humiliate myself just to be accepted, let alone to move up professionally.