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Depending on the age range? Its perfectly fine. Hell one of my newish neighbors is one such couple. Dudes dad was dating a women 9 years his junior. They divorced after two years if i recall and his son got together with her and got married.
They been together now like 20 years. He was 22ishand she was like 41ish if I recall right when they got married. He's now in his 40s and she's in her 60s.
They are fantastic neighbors. But to be fair was a weird story the first time I heard it from em.
And to be fair they arnt even the largest age gap couple I know. One of my mother's friends is married to a dude that's like 80 and she's 50 they been together for 15 years.
It's not about the age range - it's about the step-parent being a parent to a child and then deciding to have a sexual relationship with that person.
Of course there's circumstances where a step-parent was never actually in a position where they were parenting their partner's children and it wouldn't be as abusive to pursue them after a break up. But that's the exception to the rule.
But it's unfair to assume the rule is the case when exceptions exist too, right? I understand that is often practical to do so but I still try to avoid it.
We're talking about step-parents fucking their step-children.
Let's be a bit realistic here.
Given that apart from memes about porn I have never heard of it even supposedly happening it seems unnecessary to make a generalized assumption. That's my realistic take, same goes for all the arguably more interesting polyamorous relationship constellations I've thought of that are however otherwise unrelated.
I also may have forgotten that step siblings are already long gone. Gosh, what has this conversation become.
Stepfathers rape their stepdaughters a lot.