π° Build your comfort zone, fortify your comfort zone, have stocks ready in case of a siege of your comfort zone, decorate your comfort zone with colorful banners, only step out of your comfort zone if you know that you can retreat safely and quickly. π°
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Aah I'd just hit π if it bothered me. I mute liberally but thanks π₯°
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And that's the healthy response I'm advocating for!
why do I need to desperately read this? what am i supposed to get out of that mess? That people will treat me differently when I fail some rule I was supposed to know about? Believe me I know, and guess what I have made the decision a long time ago and it's been treating me so well ever since that I'd rather live with those consequences and not with the constant fear of tripping some unkown wire.
Like apparently I have to acknowledge that what the girl did was outside of the norm (which I have not even contested by the way) before we can talk about the guy passive-aggressively "teaching her a lesson" by negging her or whatever that is supposed to be. No I won't. What the guy is advocating for is inexcusable even if she had belched like a walrus
Oh and you calling me a sociopath is not being a jerk π€£π€£ ?? I'm just returning what's handed out here π€·π₯°
If you go into a date, or at least a meeting that you describe as date, and you're not actually willing to give the other person a chance?
That's a leap. Why wouldn't I be able to sus out if I'm compatible with someone while their friend is present?
Why are we so obsessed with making sure everybody understands that bringing a friend when you meet an online stranger is wrong? And no one talking about the guys mean spirited attempt at "teaching her a lesson" instead of just... saying what the fuck his problem is?
Well I'm not on board with the passive aggressive stuff.
Then what is your point? That she made a faux-pas on the first date? Ok. Whatever. Just break it off and go home if it's that big a deal. Why is it so important for you all that I know that you're not supposed to bring a friend when meeting an online stranger for the first time?
I'm not even gonna touch your consent analogy. I'm sorry but that's a mess. What we are talking about is (at worst) like asking for coffee and someone bringing tea. Not like getting tricked into a date by someone pretending it's a job interview, the power dynamics alone...
Well I'm not, I'm happily married thank god. Also empathy is exactly what I'm advocating for. I don't know why the girl decided to bring a friend. Maybe she wanted someone to check the vibes with her first? Maybe she just thought it would be fun and didn't know that "you aren't supposed to do that"? And the advice that other guy gives based is to just passive aggressively "teach her a lesson"?? Fuck that.
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