Your phrasing there is intentionally misleading.
The wiki you link discusses 20 people of obviously mixed race, with half? of those likely parentages seeming coercive. 'Many many' sounds like dozens.
I guess you mean that the number is rapes likely far exceeds the number of people conceived from rapes? The wiki also mentions guests expecting sexual gratification from slaves, but not whether or not those expectations were met. "Overseeing" any activity, kind of implies you're managing said activity, seeing it through to it's completion. Looking the other way would certainly be complicit, but it's not the same thing as commanding and ensuring those rapes happened.
Also, I set the bar intentionally low for zombie Washington. Child rape was the bar. There's no amount of revision of American history that has lowered Washington to Trump levels of evil yet. And I further wrote couldn't rape kids with the expectation that zombie dicks probably fall off.
So anyway, zombie Washington still gets my vote over Trump.
I think you are wrong about how off-putting your tears are.
In my experience, when someone loses someone they care about, it is comforting for them for other people to be sad and feel the loss as well. I think that if instead of focusing on your own tears and your embarrassment when you get emotional, if you still focused on the other person while you were crying, they wouldn't feel obligated to comfort you. Then they could just continue to share with you and be comforted by the fact that you empathized and were moved.
When my brother and SiL had a stillborn baby, I went to visit them. They genuinely seemed somewhat relieved to see me crying while we visited together.